I am having another moment of random thoughts (or as a good friend says "brain diarrhea" LOL). I recently started reading this book "The seven levels of Intimacy".
It is quite a good book and my reason for reading it is to gain more knowledge in True Intimacy. Already I am surprised at how well I can relate and how true the Authors words are. Here is a paragraph from the book: "The problem is, we are afraid. We are afraid to reveal ourselves, afraid to share ourselves, afraid to allowed others into our hearts, minds, and souls. We are afraid to be ourselves. We are afraid that is people really knew us they wouldn't love us. That is the deepest of all human fears, lurking in the heart of every person. Consciously and subconsciously, we are always asking ourselves, "If they really knew me, would they still love me? Employ me? Want to hand out with me?" We desperately want to love and be loved. But we want to be loved for who we are, warts and all. And although we are afraid to reveal ourselves because of the possibility of rejection, it is only by reveal ourselves that we will ever open the possibility of truly being loved.This is quite true. Something we all seem to consciously know at some level, yet really stop and think about it a moment. When we meet someone new we put our best foot forward "First impressions are the lasting ones".. why? Because we want to show our best image to others to have the lasting impression that we are "great". If someone knew you.. inside and out. Knew your worst fears, you dreams, your total thoughts, why you do everything you do... will they still love you? Will they still think you are a wonderful person inside and out? I believe deep Intimacy comes from showing someone our "true" selves and everything that we are. By putting our guard down we are showing we are human. Most important we are showing exactly who we are inside and out. Only when someone knows you for who you are (completely) can you share the wonderful experience of true intimacy.
What a shame it would be for you to go through your life not allowing this wonderful feeling to happen.