The true test of love is loving them in the way God tell us to love, which is: you are patient, you are kind, you are contented, you are modest, you are humble, you are chaste, you consider other peoples needs before your own, you are not provoked to sin or violence, you search out the upright, you rejoice in righteousness, you rejoice in the truth. (my own paraphrase of some of the love chapter of 1 Corinthians 13)