I'm a peacemaker - that's what I do. Sometimes you have to be a peacemaker by getting people mad at YOU instead of the other parties (that's far easier as a mad person usually WANTS to be mad and transferring it to you is a small price to pay), sometimes you're able to do it without it coming to that (much much better but is successful maybe 35% of the time!).
Now: My question:
Whether it be peacemaking, you're disappearing and need to be heard, you're mad and want people to know why, you're happy and want to share it...
in whatever case...
If you want to get a point across to a bunch of people, is it better to:
A) Make a scene, act up, be a drama queen/king, break something, scream, dance around like a goof, a spectacle, make loud bold statements and/or slam a door,
or
B) Talk quietly to each person involved, "Hey, guess what?", or "Here, I want to show you something", or "Got a minute?", take each one out to coffee, a more subtle method of consensus gathering but potentially seen as backstabbing.. |
